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It's a Mother- full Life!


I love being a mum. It's my favourite job in the world. 

It's probably the only job where you can feel everything all at once- love, frustration, impatience, pride, sadness, happiness... the list goes on!

My 3 children are my absolute world. Motherhood is hard, hilarious, and worth every second!

Where it all started....

My life hasn't been the typical boy meets girl, they get married, have babies, and live happily ever after. Although I hope that I am now getting my happy ending, the early days were difficult. I was 22 when I had my little boy Finley, and I had just finished university and started a job in a law firm. It was certainly a shock, but I knew it was what I wanted. If I could give myself any advice back then, it would be to not care so much about what other people think and to just focus on my own happiness. It's a fact that people thought my life was over, but my life had really only just begun!

I certainly proved everybody wrong and I started my legal practice course at the University of Law when I was in my third trimester of pregnancy. A few months later in around May 2016 I was pregnant with my daughter, Piper. This was another shock so soon after Finley, and in the early days I raised both Finley and Piper by myself whilst continuing on my journey to qualify as a Solicitor.

Looking back at those days I was the strongest, most independent version of myself that I have ever been. Being strong was my only choice back then, and Finley and Piper were always at the forefront of my mind. I went on to complete my Legal Practice course in 2017. The graduation ceremony was held in London at the Barbican in 2018 and it was one of the best days of my life. I then finally qualified as a Solicitor in 2019.

Having children didn't stop me from achieving my goals. My life wasn't over. If anything they brought me so much more happiness.

Always remember that everything works out in the end, don't give up on your dreams! 

It's funny how life works out...

If you asked me back in 2017 what my life would look like now, I certainly could not have predicted what was to come. Life certainly has the potential to go full circle. I went on to have a third child in 2022 called Phoebe and I'm planning a wedding with the father of my children, Josh. After all of those years of heartache and pain, the man that I have always loved turned his entire life around and over the last 3 years I have found my happing ending. I have always been sceptical about whether people can change but I wouldn't be where I am in life now if they couldn't! 

I've had so many life lessons over the years, particularly since I have had children. 

Some days are hard.... really hard with 3 children, but some days are hilarious. Being a mum is hard because of the emotional investment we make in our children. I also feel a huge amount of guilt being a working mum, but I do it so that we can have the life we have, the home we have, the things we have, and I hope to share all of those moments with you.

I am so overwhelmed. I am exhausted. I am constantly told to enjoy every minute but at the same time I wish the minutes would speed up so that I can go back to bed! 

I also know that I am so lucky, and my number one job as a parent is to make a conscious effort to raise my little ones to be good humans who contribute to society in a positive way. 



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