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Love is in the air!









It's valentines day, so it only seems fitting I do a post all about love, my engagement, and wedding plans!

It's a day to celebrate the love between friends, the love from my children, and of course the love from my fiancé, Josh. Although when I got up this morning I caught him quickly writing on a card to me- who says romance is dead eh!?

Where it all began


So before I go into the proposal I need to set a background on where mine and Josh's story began. I first met Josh on a night out back in 2012, whilst I was home from Uni on the summer break. I suppose you could call it a summer of love. I never expected it to go any further than a summer romance. 

I first saw Josh in a club called 'Liquid' looking as miserable as ever. A few days later, we went on a 'mate date' to the cinema. There were 3 of us so it was hardly anything romantic- and I wasn't looking for anything romantic either. Our first proper date was to the cinema to see Batman The Dark Knight. It was just Josh and I, and this was the perfect date for me because it meant we didn't have to talk. I was a nervous wreck at the thought of dating! 

For our second date, Josh took me to Wollaton Hall, where part of The Dark Knight was filmed. We walked around the grounds on a lovely summer day, and he was loving the fact that Christian Bale had been to the same place. Part of his geeky charm is loving superheroes!

I was almost relieved when I started back at Uni for my second year in the September 2012 because I couldn't handle the pressure of where things were going. That was until Josh text me to say he was coming up to Leeds to see me... then I did start to panic! Time went on, and Josh finally asked me to be his girlfriend on 5th November 2012. Yes- we all know he's asked me 100 times since then- but that was the first time, and that's why that date was significant. 

Many years of heartbreak and love, and an 'on and off' relationship later, and here we are! Fast forward 10 years and I am absolutely more in love than I have ever been. Josh is my best friend, my biggest fan, and he is just my home. 

The proposal

Now that the background is set for the date of Josh's proposal, I can go into the details of the day! It was never something I saw coming. I think after so much time passed by, and because of the messy years between us, I had just accepted that I was never going to get married. 

On Saturday 5th November 2022, Josh had suggested that we ask my sister to watch the kids while we go for some fresh air during the day. He wanted to take me out as a surprise and not tell me where we were going. The weeks beforehand had been stressful and tiring with a new born so I was excited to just have a couple of hours to ourselves. We got in the car and he started driving. I had no idea where we were going. We were getting close to Wollaton Hall and I still didn't click on to where we were going because my geographical skills are little to none!

When we finally got to Wollaton Hall, Josh said he thought it would be nice to have a walk around the park. We walked up to the Hall and he then suggested we do a tour of the building. I did think this was quite strange because I didn't find the building thrilling enough to do a tour, but I went with it. He couldn't find a member of staff to do a tour so we walked around the building. The next thing I know, Josh then walked back into the building whilst I waited outside to see if anybody was available. Little did I know that he had already arranged this 'proposal' with the council, so he was looking for the member of staff he had previously been in contact with.

When we started this 'tour', a lady started talking about the history of Wollaton Hall. It was just Josh and I and I did wonder what was going on. I mean, I'm an awkward person at the best of times so to be on a historical tour just us 2 was very strange! We eventually went up to the rooftop of Wollaton Hall which goes all around the building, and the lady showed us where Christian Bale stood as Batman. We went and stood in the same area of the balcony, and the next thing I know Josh gets down on one knee and proposes!

I've got to say it was very romantic and well thought out, arranging a fake tour, to come full circle over the last 10 years. My sister was even in on it all which I thought was lovely and hilarious. She helped pick my beautiful Vera Wang ring, and had even asked if she could paint my nails the night before because she needed practice. I even fell for that!

Of course I said yes! I couldn't believe it and still can't- I'm a fiancée! 

Wedding Plans- Help!

We started looking at venues straight away. It was only a few weeks later that we found our perfect venue and set our date for 17th August 2024. Wedding plans are fully underway and I am so so so so so so excited! I cannot wait to celebrate with all of our closest friends and family. I still can't believe I am going to be a wife. I'm going to be Mrs. Spencer!

How expensive are wedding though? I don't think you fully appreciate how expensive everything is until you start planning yourself!

We have most things booked now, but my question to all of the married people out there is how important was a videographer to you? 

We just can't justify another £2000 for a video we will hardly watch! We keep looking at different videographers and watching the highlight videos, and to be honest we find them a little boring- but maybe it's because it isn't us, and we would find the voiceovers from the ceremony and speeches extremely cringeworthy. We also know that we will never get this day again (hopefully!) so we just don't know what to do. 

So if you had one, are you glad you did? If you didn't have one, did you regret it?

It's a tough one!

Planning the wedding is so exciting and I am absolutely loving it! I have never been more in love, I have never been happier, and I have never been more content that I am right now. 

I just love Love!

I finally got my happy ending. 

I wish every single one of you a magical day of love, whether you are single, in a relationship, or are just in love with yourself! Even if your world may be coming to an end, and if you have to buy our own valentine's presents, or in my case, catching my partner writing on my card the morning of Valentine's day, isn't it thrilling to just charge on and keep loving life with boundless, heart stretching enthusiasm!














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