Out of Sight, Out of Mind

So let's talk about March- what a month it has been. There has been so much drama, so much fun, so much laughter, and unfortunately a few tears.

Behind every maternity leave is a story, and often a challenge.

It can often feel 'out of sight, out of mind' for a woman. "Would this have happened if I hadn't gone on leave?" A question that has been on my mind just lately. Being a working mum is hard, in fact being a woman is hard in general.

I assume that we are all familiar with the words 'It's a man's world".

I've always been quite a feminist myself. We live in changing times and it is okay to change routine every so often. Being a woman in this so- called man's world feels a lot like navigating through a minefield when it absolutely should not. In an ideal world working mums would not feel inferior, they would not feel limited, or need to tread carefully out of fear that they might hurt a few egos along the way.

This is undeniably a man's world, but like James Brown said 'it would be nothing, not one little thing, without a woman or a girl.'

Manifesting your career success will help keep your career goals top of mind. Just do your best, that's all we can do, and hopefully what's meant to be will be. At the end of the day we are all striving to find happiness, success, and equality.

Life can often feel like hard work but don't give up on your dreams. As I approach turning 30, I am a big believer of the saying 'everything happens for a reason'.

Difficult times make us stronger people. I have felt sadness in my heart in relation to a certain relationship in my life this month. Relationships can celebrate your highs and give you comfort when you're at your lows. Even so, disagreements and misunderstandings are bound to happen between people. In cases where resentment and toxic patterns arise, interactions can become sources of frustration. All we can do is to take one day at a time and see if time heals wounds.

I suppose people may grow apart due to changes in lives and interests. Life is a book and relationships are constantly evolving and changing from one chapter to the next. Some chapters are sad to leave behind, but one things for sure, and that is that life is always moving forward.

March hasn't been all testing though. The best thing about memories is making them and I always make sure I have a full diary. I went to a PINK tribute, experienced my first Bottomless Brunch in Lincoln, had a yummy Indian at Waterlilly, and went out for the most beautiful meal at the Lion at Farnsfield. On top of all of that we had snow to enjoy. Who would have thought it in March? I just love good food, good company, and good times with my children.

I am entering April with an open heart, excitement for Spring (my favourite season), and I can't forget my birthday- I am going to be Thirty, Flirty, and Thriving after all!

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